SHAME, and Our Selves in Relationship

Shame is the emotional consequence of feeling marginalized, devalued, disempowered, or disgraced. It follows from the perception that we are unlovable, unacceptable, and disturbing to others. It is the well-learned warning bell that we are stepping beyond our allotted place in the order of things – that we are about to violate a powerful taboo against “too much” self-assurance, “too much” trust in our own experience, “too much” disturbance for those with power or influence over us.

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THE IMPORTANCE OF OUR INTIMACY QUOTIENT

Intimacy is a central element for success and satisfaction in personal relationships.  This applies not only to romantic partners but also to anyone we care about and want to feel close to and compatible with.  This may include, for example, friends, siblings and other family members. 

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THE MORE YOU HELP YOURSELF THE MORE HELP YOU WILL GET

Alice looked pale and completely worn out. “My husband is still in the process of leaving. He doesn’t see that I’m really upset. He didn’t notice that I took too many pills even though he is a dentist.. I went to the hospital emergency room to check myself in to the psych ward because I felt so bad, because he wouldn’t even drive me there. I don’t think he cares if I die.

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