TELLING YOUR MARITAL STORY
By Joyce Parker, Ph.D.
In his book, Why Marriages Succeed or Fail and How You Can Make Yours Last, John Gottman, Ph.D. suggests that couples tell their marital story to each other to help reinforce positive beliefs and feelings about the marriage. Usually, couples have some history of positive feelings and interactions that brought them together and served as the foundation of their relationship. If however, only negative feelings are evoked, attempt to discuss these feelings with each other in nonjudgmental and noncritical ways. Try to determine why you don’t feel better about your shared past and how you might change so that you may resolve some of these issues in the future. Read each question. You may want to take some notes. Then discuss your answers with each other. Answer with as much detail as you wish.
The author of this article, and founder of the Therapyinla.com website, Joyce Parker, passed away in 2011. To honor her we are keeping her articles posted at this website.
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